Students are losing dating manners

Regina Pauly, Writer

Her crush smiled and said “hello”, she choked. He then proceeded to open the door for her and ask for her number. Her heart melted as she barely managed to speak the numbers. All it takes are nice manners and a ‘hello’ to make a girls day, yet our generation neglects to do so.

Confrontation can be nerve racking but it’s not a hard concept. Talking in person or over the phone is way more effective than texting someone will ever be. Meeting face to face with others gives you a connection and the sense of reality that texting can’t. In texting, you have more time to think about what you’re gonna say and lets you say things that you might be too afraid to in real life. This then creates a false sense of who someone truly is, and can even lead to someone pretending to be someone they’re not. Phones not only take away confrontation but also take away the manner in which we talk to each other.

“Wanna chill later?” There is no effort put into this sentence and also lacks manners. No, I don’t want to hang out with you until you learn how to respectfully talk to women. It’s more somewhere around the lines of, “Hey, Regina we haven’t talked in awhile, do you wanna catch up later and grab something to eat?” This greeting obviously has a lot more thought and was very respectful, which could be the difference in my decision on if I say yes or no. It’s sad that in our generation we lost all respect for each other and our manners. Women should feel like princesses when talking to a guy, not unwanted and unrespected.

Meeting face to face with others gives you a connection and the sense of reality that texting can’t.

“Hey, if you aren’t busy Friday night I would love to take you on a date”. Honestly such a simple sentence yet guys are too shy or just don’t consider it a date so they ask to hang out. Yet, that’s what “dating” is literally all about. Guys used to ask girls on dates and then have to pick them up, maybe wave to their parents, and be a gentleman and it was all normal. I don’t understand what changed or why putting less effort into a relationship is acceptable. People are involved in relationships where they don’t get along or treat each other right. Relationships are suppose to be fun. The concept of dating has changed more for the worse these days.

It isn’t hard to have manners and be a gentleman, and yet no guys seem to have them. Not saying that everyone is this way, but for the most part in our generation manners aren’t really expected or normal. Ladies we should start having higher standards and lifting each other up to change the manners of our generation and hopefully bring back gentlemen and nice young women.